I went to one of my good friend's baby shower over the weekend. One thing she said got me thinking. She mentioned that her best friend had recently stopped returning her calls and texts and she couldn't figure out why.

I suddenly flashed back to around four years ago when I was pregnant with my first child, Ceili. Some of my childless friends suddenly stopped calling me and inviting me out. Once she was born, only a couple stuck around. At first I was really upset and wondered why, but then I decided to stop questioning, get on with my life and concentrate on the good friends I did have.

I'm not sure why people who don't have kids do this, hearing my friend say this made me sad for her because I know how she feels. I think the reason alot of childless people cut all ties to people with children is that they feel they can no longer relate to the new parent. Little do they know it hurts the other person and makes them feel alienated from their usual world.

The advice I gave her was to try not to worry about it and just spend time with the friends and family that stand by you. Obviously people who do this to their friends weren't really your friend in the first place.

Oh the Tantrums!

I survived the "Terrible Twos" but I'm not sure I will make it through the last 4 months of the "Terrifying Threes"! Ceili has been switching between monster and angel at least a hundred times a day lately and I don't quite know what to do about it.

I always make sure to spend time with just her every day and do something puzzles, coloring, a craft, etc. but she still acts up. It drives me absolutely insane because she does it completely on purpose alot of the time. She will look at me and smile as she does something she's not supposed to do.

Today was one of those days that I'm surprised my whole head of hair didn't turn grey. We had planned to go for a walk because it was supposed to be warmer outside today. She refused to get dressed until I threatened her with no walk, she refused to brush her teeth until I threatened no walk, and so on. Finally after I wrestled her into her coat which she said was "the wrong one" then I said "If I hear another complaint or you talk back again, we are not going for a walk and that's final". I got Abbey into her carseat and coat. I asked Ceili to please put her boots on, because there is about 2 feet of snow on the ground. She proceeded to put on her running shoes while yelling at me and said that she would not wear her boots.

Then I had to be the mean mommy and say "Okay, we are not going for a walk now". She didn't believe I was serious and when she finally saw me taking her sister's coat off, she flipped! There was a period of about half an hour of crying and pleading, but she eventually stopped.

I felt awful because she was so broken- hearted but I knew I had to follow through or she would never take me seriously. Just another day of being a mother of a toddler I guess!

The Big 3-0

Well, here I am, 30 years old. I can't believe it. It feels like just yesterday I was in junior high buying Slurpees and gummy candy at 7-11 and wandering around the neighborhood aimlessly with my best friends. Now here I am 30 years old, married, living in a house that we own with two kids and a minivan!

After thinking about this crazy comparison and the changes that have occured in the past fifteen years, I feel so fortunate. I feel complete, like I have accomplished what I wanted to in my life. Not that my life is over by any means, I know the fun has just started! I am so happy that I married the love of my life and had two beautiful daughters with him. I know that if I hadn't done these things by 30, I would be pretty lonesome and my ovaries would be screaming "BABIES, NOW!!!"...sorry, too much info!

From the time I was a little girl I had wanted a nice wedding to a great man and two kids. I have everything I dreamed of and it feels fantastic!

Now I can look forward to my next 30 years that will hopefully include graduation for our girls, possibly a wedding or two and maybe even some grandbabies and best of all growing old with my awesome husband. I cannot be more thankful for my life.

Fantastic Book!

We went to the library yesterday, one of our favorite family activities. I usually browse around and pick a few books that I think Ceili will like.

I stumbled upon one that I really love, written by Brooke Shields of all people! It's called "Welcome to Your World, Baby" and it's a great one for little girls who have a new baby sister. I have had a difficult time finding a book that shows the light side of having a new baby for kids, not to mention one that is for girls. So many books show the negative side of a new baby; that they cry alot, can't play, etc. and though that is true, I think kids need to see that this new member of the family is wonderful and should be welcomed!

Ceili was so excited after we read the book saying "when Abbey is bigger, I'm going to show her how to do all of those things".

If you are interested in purchasing this awesome book, check it out on Amazon!

Never a Normal Shopping Trip

Tonight Matt and I decided to make an impromptu trip to Costco because we were in dire need of diapers, Pull-Ups and baby wipes all of which we buy there. Both kids had been in a decent mood today, so I thought "hey, why not?".

We got to into Costco and into the bread aisle when Ceili says about a lady right beside us "OH, that lady is grumpy!". The woman looked at me like "say something to make me feel better about the rude comment you kid just made" and I just stood there because I didn't know what to say or do! I asked Ceili later why she said that, she said "she had a grouchy face on". Toddlers say the funniest things!

When we got to the checkout, Abbey started screaming so I told Matt I was going to sit down in the eating area and feed her. I sat down with Ceili and Abbey and of course she wouldn't latch on, she just screamed while I tried to stick my boob in her mouth. That's probably the first time that has ever happened, so I didn't know what to do. You have to remember this breastfeeding thing is somewhat new to me because Ceili and I didn't do well with it and switched to formula when she was 7 weeks old. I had to put Abbey back into her carseat and take her home. I don't know if she wasn't hungry or there was just too much commotion for her, but she did nurse when we got home.

I'm glad to be home after all of that craziness!

Two GIRLS?!

Throughout my last pregnancy, I (as well as everyone else) was convinced that we were going to have a boy. We didn't find out the sex because Matt wanted to keep it a surprise this time since it was our last. Having a girl never even really crossed my mind! My pregnancy was totally different than the first. From the cravings to my belly shape, it was all opposite!

We had boy names chosen, and a few girl names as well just incase, but I felt they weren't going to be needed. The moment our little Abbey was born, the doctor said "it's a girl!" as he checked between her legs. Matt smiled then said "what?!" and did a double take! I was shocked myself, but happy nonetheless. She was beautiful and perfect and she melted my heart from the first moment I held her. Ceili said Abbey was a girl the entire time, maybe our 3 year old is psychic.

Come to think of it, this happened with our oldest daughter too. Even though we found out the sex and the ultrasound tech told us multiple times that we were having a girl, I was convinced she was a he. I kept having to tell myself that there was a little baby girl living in my belly, not a boy!

I guess the different pregnancies could have been due to our very different children. They are quite opposite so far. Ceili used to be awake and crying at least 5-6 times a night as a newborn where as Abbey is only awake once during the night to nurse and fall back asleep. Abbey is quite happy sitting in the swing in the morning and looking around and Ceili wouldn't have anything to do with it. You could say that Abbey is an "easy" baby, let's hope I didn't just jinx myself, lol.

Either way, I love our girls just the same and I do enjoy playing Barbies and princesses and I'm sure we will have many years of that ahead of us.

Intro

I'm Heidi, a proud mom of two beautiful girls, Ceili (3.5 years old) and Abbey (6 weeks old). I have been happily married to my hubby Matt for 7 years and we live in Alberta, Canada in a small but nice house.

I discovered that I enjoyed blogging when I was pregnant with Abbey and stuck on bed rest for most of it. I started my blog "Blogging from Bed" then and loved having a place for all of my thoughts, so here I am again!

This blog will be about my crazy life with two girls, friends, family, good deals and things that I find funny!